Arrogance

Arrogance:  Exaggerating or disposed to exaggerate one's own worth or importance often by an overbearing attitude. (Merriam-Webster)

Refusing to recognize particular traits in themselves is often common in abusers, as is the uncanny ability to criticize something in someone else as they then proceed to do what they criticized.

Yet, they arrogantly claim it's "them" and not "me".

*Claiming to be an authority on a subject, yet having no education to back it up, arrogant.
*Allowing themselves to act in an angry out-of-control manner while claiming to offer insight into another's out-of-control life, arrogant.
*Seeking money for their convoluted opinions, arrogant.
*Taking advantage of others while claiming others have taken advantage of them, arrogant.
*Openly disparaging others while offering others healing, arrogant.

Ah, hypocrite also comes to mind.

Hypocrite:  1.  a person who puts on a false appearance of virtue
2.  a person who acts in contradiction to his or her stated beliefs or feelings. (Merriam-Webster)

Yes, the purpose of my blogs.
You continue to prove the truth to my words.